Someone sent me an e-mail expressing support for “Conflict is Not Abuse” from Sarah Schulman. I searched for information about the book and found this very insightful article. It offers smart, practical and compassionate ways out of the traps that many people — especially progressives — get into regarding how we deal with social justice issues at an interpersonal level.
Rather than try to summarize her helpful insights here, I encourage you to read this information about her book:
https://www.thestranger.com/books/2017/01/10/24792575/sarah-schulmans-conflict-is-not-abuse-is-a-guide-to-keeping-the-peace